Commonly known as Valentine's Day, Saint Valentine or Feast of
Saint Valentine, is observed on February 14 each year. It is celebrated
in many countries around the world and is known for being the only
holiday of the year associated with romantic love. It is an occasion in
which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers,
offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines")
as a symbol of their affection. The question is how could anyone
despise a holiday that encourages happiness, warmth, and appreciation?
What is it about love that bring about feelings of anxiety, stress, and
fear?
It appears that not only do single people loathe this holiday, but apparently some lovers hate it too. From what I've gathered, the biggest reason people dislike February 14th so much is due to the fact that a holiday that was initially established to bring couples closer together, has been transformed into a commercial spectacle peddled to us by florists, greeting card companies, jewelry stores and makers of stuffed animals. But wait a minute, that's not all. The ostentatious displays of public affection is another reason why people don't like it. People feel that they can do without seeing red hearts at every turn and they can definitely do without the annoying nauseating Facebook status updates.
Here's my question; why is it that nobody feels this way about Thanksgiving or Columbus Day? I could give a number of reasons why we shouldn't celebrate those holidays either. Many of us show appreciation to our parents all year long, however, Father's Day and Mother's Day are also holidays that encourage us to show appreciation in the form of flowers, gifts, candy, and yet, nobody complains. And if the issue with Valentine's Day is the ridiculous notion that you have to spend money to show someone you care, then why is it these same people who complain about spending money on such a stupid holiday, seem to take no issue with Black Friday and Christmas?
This leaves me wondering where does all of the loathing really come from. I'll admit that it's pretty funny to hear all the rage about a holiday symbolized by cute little cupids and fluffy things. It seems to bring out the worst in people as they go on protests and tirades about why Valentine's Day sucks. Maybe it's me, but I don't see the big deal. Sure you don't need one day out of the whole year to show someone how special they are to you. But this day could also be utilized to do something other than complain. Spending the day trying to convince people how much you don't care about something so 'stupid' or 'nonsensical' isn't very productive. Nobody hates something they don't care about. And to unleash such pent-up aggression over a single day would only make you question why anyone would get so emotional over something they claim means nothing to them. Why the upset? If you are one who urges people to seek out happiness in their daily lives on any other day, only to turn around and protest it by letting your disappointment bubble to the surface over a holiday is a bit contradictory to the message of love no?
Believe me, I'm not trying to tell anyone how they should feel about any day of the year, however, if people want to celebrate of all manifestations of love on a single day then let them. Sometimes we take our partners for granted. Sometimes we're not as nice to each other as we could be. Sometimes we just need a reason to be nice to each other and if Valentine's Day is the appointed day to do so, then let people do them. Lighten up. A single gesture of love and affection on any day of the year, even when we don't need it or want it can bring a smile to our face. A compliment can even make someone's day. Life can be very hard. Expressing to someone that you care with a card and/or trinket, should not be.
It appears that not only do single people loathe this holiday, but apparently some lovers hate it too. From what I've gathered, the biggest reason people dislike February 14th so much is due to the fact that a holiday that was initially established to bring couples closer together, has been transformed into a commercial spectacle peddled to us by florists, greeting card companies, jewelry stores and makers of stuffed animals. But wait a minute, that's not all. The ostentatious displays of public affection is another reason why people don't like it. People feel that they can do without seeing red hearts at every turn and they can definitely do without the annoying nauseating Facebook status updates.
Here's my question; why is it that nobody feels this way about Thanksgiving or Columbus Day? I could give a number of reasons why we shouldn't celebrate those holidays either. Many of us show appreciation to our parents all year long, however, Father's Day and Mother's Day are also holidays that encourage us to show appreciation in the form of flowers, gifts, candy, and yet, nobody complains. And if the issue with Valentine's Day is the ridiculous notion that you have to spend money to show someone you care, then why is it these same people who complain about spending money on such a stupid holiday, seem to take no issue with Black Friday and Christmas?
This leaves me wondering where does all of the loathing really come from. I'll admit that it's pretty funny to hear all the rage about a holiday symbolized by cute little cupids and fluffy things. It seems to bring out the worst in people as they go on protests and tirades about why Valentine's Day sucks. Maybe it's me, but I don't see the big deal. Sure you don't need one day out of the whole year to show someone how special they are to you. But this day could also be utilized to do something other than complain. Spending the day trying to convince people how much you don't care about something so 'stupid' or 'nonsensical' isn't very productive. Nobody hates something they don't care about. And to unleash such pent-up aggression over a single day would only make you question why anyone would get so emotional over something they claim means nothing to them. Why the upset? If you are one who urges people to seek out happiness in their daily lives on any other day, only to turn around and protest it by letting your disappointment bubble to the surface over a holiday is a bit contradictory to the message of love no?
Believe me, I'm not trying to tell anyone how they should feel about any day of the year, however, if people want to celebrate of all manifestations of love on a single day then let them. Sometimes we take our partners for granted. Sometimes we're not as nice to each other as we could be. Sometimes we just need a reason to be nice to each other and if Valentine's Day is the appointed day to do so, then let people do them. Lighten up. A single gesture of love and affection on any day of the year, even when we don't need it or want it can bring a smile to our face. A compliment can even make someone's day. Life can be very hard. Expressing to someone that you care with a card and/or trinket, should not be.
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